Intolerance and Irritation…


We all are intolerant towards things that irritates us. Everything should be just the way we want it and nothing is allowed to disturb or disrupt our peace of perfection we have just perfected for ourselves…

If we allow this intolerance to continue in our lives we become the victims there of. Our own lives is disrupted minute after minute, day after day and we suffer the irritation, pain and hate of our own doing.

Here is an abstract from Spiritual Letters by Fenelon:

LETTER XXI.
The imperfection of others to be borne in love.

It is a long while since I renewed the assurance of my attachment to you in our Lord. It is, nevertheless, greater than ever. I desire with all my heart that you may always find in your household the peace and consolation which you enjoyed in the beginning. To be content with even the best of people, we must be contented with little and bear a great deal. Those who are most perfect, have many imperfections, and we have great faults, so that between the two, mutual toleration becomes very difficult. We must bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ, (Gal. vi. 2,) thus setting off one against the other in love. Peace and unanimity will be much aided by frequent silence, habitual recollection, prayer, self-abandonment, renunciation of all vain criticisms, and a faithful departure from the vain reflections of a jealous and difficult self-love. To how much trouble would this simplicity put an end! Happy he who neither listens to self nor to the tales of others!

Be content with leading a simple life, according to your condition. Be obedient, and bear your daily cross; you need it, and it is bestowed by the pure mercy of God. The grand point is to despise self from the heart, and to be willing to be despised, if God permits it. Feed upon Him alone; St. Augustine says that his mother lived upon prayer; do you do so likewise, and die to everything else. We can only live to God by the continual death of self.
by Fenelon

This so true! Our lives is not suppose to be without weakness, but we should learn to embrace even our weaknesses so that we may know ourselves, embracing our humanity with the full knowledge of our utter dependence on God.

LETTER XXIV.
Imperfection only is intolerant of imperfection.

It has seemed to me that you have need of more enlargedness of heart in relation to the defects of others. I know that you cannot help seeing them when they come before you, nor prevent the opinions you involuntarily form concerning the motives of some of those about you. You cannot even get rid of a certain degree of trouble which these things cause you. It will be enough if you are willing to bear with those defects which are unmistakable, refrain from condemning those which are doubtful, and not suffer yourself to be so afflicted by them as to cause a coolness of feeling between you.

Perfection is easily tolerant of the imperfections of others; it becomes all things to all men. We must not be surprised at the greatest defects in good souls, and must quietly let them alone until God gives the signal of gradual removal; otherwise we shall pull up the wheat with the tares. God leaves, in the most advanced souls, certain weaknesses entirely disproportioned to their eminent state. As workmen, in excavating the soil from a field, leave certain pillars of earth which indicate the original level of the surface, and serve to measure the amount of material removed—God, in the same way, leaves pillars of testimony to the extent of his work in the most pious souls.

Such persons must labor, each one in his degree, for his own correction, and you must labor to bear with their weaknesses. You know from experience the bitterness of the work of correction; strive then to find means to make it less bitter to others. You have not an eager zeal to correct, but a sensitiveness that easily shuts up your heart.

I pray you more than ever not to spare my faults. If you should think you see one, which is not really there, there is no harm done; if I find that your counsel wounds me, my sensitiveness demonstrates that you have discovered a sore spot; but if not, you will have done me an excellent kindness in exercising my humility, and accustoming me to reproof. I ought to be more lowly than others in proportion as I am higher in position, and God demands of me a more absolute death to everything. I need this simplicity, and I trust it will be the means of cementing rather than of weakening our attachment.
by Fenelon

May we work and press into the truth of this all discovering who we were created to be…

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured from sinners such hostility against himself, so that you may not grow weary or fainthearted. In your struggle against sin you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood. And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? "My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives."
(Hebrews 12:1-6).

Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith– that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead. Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own.
(Philippians 3:8-12).

Love,
Thomas Dreyer

2 thoughts on “Intolerance and Irritation…”

  1. Hierdie is amazing en daar is twee goed wat vir my uitstaan:

    As iemand fout vind met my en daar is nie regtig fout nie, dan toets dit my trots of sensitiwiteit wat nie meer behoorte bestaan nie en as daar wel fout is, dan het hulle gehelp om dit uit die weg te ruim

    Ons is gewoond in die wereld dat ‘n leier alles moet kan doen/ die beste moet wees. In die kerk beteken dit egter dat die leier die beste moet wees om sy lewe neer te lê en die minste moet kan wees van almal in die kerk. Hoe anders dan kan hy die Vader se leiding volg en sy hele gemeente daarvolgens lei?

    Dankie, hierdie het my regtig gebless!!!!

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  2. Ek dink ons word deur ons daaglikse omstandighede gevorm om die hele ding van “intolerance” te “embrace”. Want hoe baie sonde en lae standaarde (as dit gemeet word met God se standaarde) soos siekte, armoede en swaarkry, verwarring, geweld, oorloë sien ons nie om ons nie. En baie mense (insluitend ons) doen sonde en beskadig onsself sonder enige ander druk behalwe ons eie sondige natuur, net omdat ons vlees nog te veel vatplek het in ons. Ek dink ons moet gewillig wees om dit te aanvaar as die realiteit en dan te aanvaar dat God besig is om ons te gebruik om dit te verander en gereed maak om meer en meer gebruik te word deur hom.

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